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How to Treat a Friend Who Wears Adult Diapers

Just when you thought things couldn't have gotten worse, you just saw the signs that your friend is having to wear adult diapers! But how can you deal with it? (They're your friend anyway.) Do you treat them like a baby? Do you treat her like an adult? Well, read on to find out.


  1. 1 Find the right signs that will lead you to the interpretation that your friend is wearing diapers. Maybe it's the smell of them alone, the noise, or maybe it's their diaper sagging a little, or it's visible from the shape and bulk of their pants. Your friend may even take a diaper bag with them wherever they go, even though they don't have children to follow them.
  2. 2 Be a supportive friend. Your first thought might be an urge to heal your friend by doing an internet search. Instead, think about your motivation.
    • Is it because you think you're grossing out diapers or because you want to help? Your friend is probably wearing diapers for a reason. It is best to assume that doctors and experts did their best. If your friend has been wearing diapers for years, your friend is likely used to wearing diapers and accepting himself as someone who has to wear diapers again as part of his daily ritual.
    • Sharing the secret with you is a huge step and is not the opportunity for you to suggest a cure that you found on the internet. Your friend has probably already tried it and brought in experts who couldn't help.
    • Diets and other simple remedies most likely won't work and cause more stress than relief. When your friend is comfortable with their life, you are there to support them as a friend and leave it to their doctor to be responsible for any possible cure.

Part one of four:
First conversation

  1. 1 Are you asking yourself some questions about whether or not you consider your boyfriend a close friend? The answer to these questions might surprise you with how much you honestly care for your friend.
    • Would you mind talking to this person about your own underwear? If not, maybe it would be better if you just wait for your friend to start this conversation.
    • Constantly talking about urine, diapers, or songs about wet pants, incontinence, water, or hearing a friend's ringtone is not a good subtle way of getting them to start the conversation.
      Please respect if he does not want to initiate the conversation.
  2. 2 Prepare the first conversation.
    • What is the goal of the conversation? Is it to reduce the person to their diaper consumption or to get rid of their diapers entirely? Or is it another goal that deals with the use of diapers?
    • Would you like to be supportive, and if so, how much? Honestly, think about how much support you can give as diaper wearers and dealing with them need a lot of psychological and physical help from friends and can help everywhere with changing their diapers and covering up their lie that they do not want to show to others Protect wearers from obvious psychological harm when passing it on to others who will further spread it.
    • Turn off your phone to indicate that you are concerned about a private conversation.
  3. 3 Schedule the conversation in a private setting without anyone else. Give your friend space to tell a sad story, cry and trust you without disturbances or other appointments popping up. Your boyfriend might have had this conversation before and be sure they are wearing diapers, but it could also be the first time they have had this conversation outside of close family.
    • Read the rest of this guide. Take into account the intimacy of the help you want to provide, where your limits are, and bring up situations that you have doubts about how to handle.
    • Express your friendship with and with them. Let your friend know that you like him / her for certain reasons, including their personality, and that wearing diapers in no way changes your views about your friendship with them.
    • Ask which word they would prefer. Some prefer to name these absorbent pant diapers while others dislike the connotations these words give and prefer pads, panties or absorbent underwear ... but sometimes the wearer may not even like one of these terms and would like a different piece of clothing name, to refer to it as. Find a word that suits you and your friend's discretion.
    • Try one of their diapers to see how your friend feels when you wear them, when you can't stand the idea of ​​wearing one and assume that you can take them off on your own without a fuss. If you are a curious person, you can ask your friend if you can borrow a diaper to try on yourself that can open the conversation for your friend to show their expertise and advice on their ability to wear a diaper and make them feel accepted and on par with the rest of the people in the world. Use the guide in How to Wear a Diaper to find out how to wear a diaper like this one.

Part two of four:
While in public

  1. 1 Think about whether they need to wear the diaper at all or whether they are wearing the diaper in response to an embarrassment from another situation. Make sure the diaper is not being used because of other medical issues such as prostate problems or stress incontinence. Let their family talk to them and have their family taken to a doctor who can treat and evaluate why they even need their diapers to guarantee their no other drastic reason that is curable but if left untreated can down a problem the line in be time.
  2. 2 Make sure the wearer is not ashamed of wearing the diaper in public. Many wearers may feel ashamed that their diapers are on public display and that the problem will get out of hand if not taken seriously. Make sure they can rely on you to deal with emergencies while wearing them in public by shielding others' views on other aspects of their use.
  3. 3 Try not to act too sad for them or their situation if they don't seem to get another answer from the doctor, or something else turns out to be the case that was never thought to make the diaper a major cause for others Problems.
  4. 4 Expect to help them if you notice their diaper is showing. Like underwear, diapers tend to show up in the lower back after bending down to pick up something or when the person is stretching. This is compounded by diapers with a higher waist and a plastic-like back panel that can make it easy for shirts to slide up and reveal their diaper. Your friend probably won't show the diaper, and just like a laundry instruction tag shows it as polite to tell your friend so that the wardrobe malfunction[1] can be customized.
    • Use a code word to represent when this happens to your friend. Your friend may appreciate it if you don't say "show your diaper" out loud, but you may agree to a slightly more nondescript word that is less harmful to health, such as socks, pants, or other terms you can develop with them.
    • Diapers can be drawn in. The top of the diaper is made of plastic that helps seal the urine while lying down. Once tucked under and into the diaper itself it may become less noticeable, but this can create skin contact with the plastic, which can cause itching and irritation for the wearer. In order to decrease the height of the diaper edge, it is better to bend this upper part outward so that the wearer's other clothing holds the diaper in a better place on their body.
  5. 5 Be there and be ready to help your friend carry his diaper bag for them. Offer to carry your friend's diaper bag. While your friend may occasionally say that he can just manage to be ready and caring, it can definitely mean a lot for your friendship to move forward. It can be a hassle to always carry a bag of spare diapers, and the supplies that go with your diaper use and change including carrying wet wipes and ointment. Carrying your bag relieves not only the physical but also the psychological stress of wearing diapers. Your friend may say no, but at least it's a nice gesture that shows acceptance and helpfulness.
  6. 6 Make your friend aware that their diaper needs a change. Although certain types of diapers have different absorption rates and the most common times they are worn between changes, there is a difference between being wet and dirty, or just wet or just dirty, and they all need to be replaced. Some adult diapers are made to be worn comfortably for several hours, including a typical lifestyle of one to three hours for the thinly padded to ten to fourteen hours for the thickest padded. A change is recommended:
    • If the diaper is so wet it can leak
    • After soiling
    • If the diaper smells. Nobody around likes the smell emitted (waterproof plastic pants can limit the smell).
    • Before starting a long trip with no access to toilets
    • Before going on a bike tour. Your friend may not notice when they get wet. Having a friend to find out about the problems with their diapers is very pleasant while driving. You can also pick up on small subtle changes that your friend may not have noticed or become used to if the time is up while wearing his diaper. It's not uncommon to get a bit grumpy when the diaper is soaked as the wetness is subconsciously felt and irritated, but your friend may not feel the diaper is wet as it focuses on the road while cycling.
  7. 7 Be sure you are there to comfort your friend, especially when they say they don't want your help. But, if you wish, you can refrain from constant questioning. It can be quite intimidating, daunting, and embarrassing to face your friend who got the diaper wet and needs a change. You have to have an arrangement with your boyfriend to know that it is okay to comment with you that they need to have their diaper changed and that you will not tell anyone else ("What happens in the room stays in the room")
    • A code word could make the situation easier. "I can smell your socks" is less likely to attract attention than mentioning wet diapers or asking your friend if their diaper needs to be changed. Alternatively, you can agree on a non-verbal cue like a nudge or tap on their body to tell your friend that you can smell their diaper without anyone else noticing.
  8. 8 Visit the bathroom together. Sometimes diaper wearers feel that they cannot make it to the bathroom in time to wear their diaper. If you can show them that they can make it "on time," you can get your friend to use the bathroom and maybe even prevent the diaper from being used in the first place.
  9. 9 Make sure you buy something or do something other than wear your diaper and show you and your family the diapers.
    • If your friend invites you to shop for clothes together, they will most likely want your input about when their diaper is showing or when the clothes are actively hiding the diaper and how visible it is. You can use code words for this to keep them private in the shop. However, before shopping, make sure that the diaper is wet to ensure that other clothes that you have not already bought do not get wet and that you will have to purchase these items.
  10. 10 Buy plastic pants with them if for some reason they are buying or want to buy them. When you chat about it and buy menstrual pads or tampons with your friend, it should also be possible to talk about buying plastic pants. Otherwise, leave it up to your friend to start this conversation. Plastic or rubber pants reduce the odor, noise, risk of leaks, and keep the diaper close to your body so that it is less visible. On the other hand, buying more than regular underwear is a more intimate thing for them. It is a piece of clothing that only you and your friend's closest friends will see, but it is also a piece of clothing that romantic partners or people looking for a skirt will see, making it a crucial fashion accessory. Also, if plastic pants are worn, it is very likely that the leg creases of these pants will show up on the lower back when you pick up or stretch something.
  11. 11 Swimming, sunbathing, fitness, sauna, spa, massage or showering together.
    • Are all places where semi-public nudity is expected and accepted, which makes your boyfriend especially considerate to show his diaper. Talk to your friend about this before planning or paying for these activities. Suggest the activity to your friend and listen to the answer.
      One possibility could be that your friend is going to the bathroom quite often before, during, and after the activity and is not wearing a diaper or is wearing a very thin diaper. This will add to the stress for your friend as he / she needs to be aware of the location of the closest toilet, may wait in line and suddenly run away to avoid accidents. While cycling typically doesn't involve semi-public nudity, it does mean putting lots of pressure on the diaper and bending the diaper out of the cup shape that forms naturally as you walk. Bikes also make it harder to wear skirts or an otherwise good piece of feminine clothing to make diapers less noticeable.
      If your friend has fecal incontinence, they will have to wear a special swim diaper when you go to a pool. Since these garments are very noticeable, your friend will have to accept that he / she publicly shows that he / she is wearing a diaper. Swimming diapers should also be used on the beach.
  12. 12 Limit conversations about diaper commercials, visits to the bathroom, or any signs where urinating might cause an inconvenience in your friend as these conversations want them to wear their diapers longer. Although other references in pop and rock music mention both, incontinence has become more common and diapering is no longer a taboo[2][3]but it doesn't necessarily mean your friend is ready to have it as public knowledge. A conversation among a group of friends can of course turn this topic into something irrational and cause great psychological pain to the wearer and they may wish them to wear diapers even more or even longer than originally planned. Depending on your friend, they may feel ashamed of the topic and it is an option for you as their friend to move the conversation to another topic.

Part three of four:
While at home

  1. 1 Make the wearer feel more comfortable. It is common to get into something more comfortable when the wearer comes home or is in a place where they are sure the friend will not mention others, as the wearer is often the guest. If you find out that they are wearing diapers, it could also result in you wearing thicker, more comfortable diapers while you are the only one because it will better protect against leaks when you are resting or sitting in a single spot or restricting movement.
    • Another problem is heat and skin contact with plastic. While plastic pants are preferable in public, they're hot and tight elastic bands can irritate the skin.If you are spending long periods of time at home with your boyfriend, they would prefer not to wear plastic pants, which would lead to an increased risk of odors, noise, and leaks, where the increased risk of leaks is mitigated by wearing a thicker diaper.
  2. 2 Prepare some differences when wearing diapers in the summer. During the summer, heat is a challenge as diapers act as extra insulation for the body. Where you can wear thin shorts or a skirt, your friend still needs her diaper. During parts of the summer when you want to wear as little clothing as possible to cool off, your friend may request that you only wear a diaper. If your friend asks, let him / her do it - and see it as a good sign that they are not embarrassed to wear diapers (many children are only in diapers on hot summer days!). As long as you both don't mind the occasional accident, your friend can avoid wearing the diaper at all. Make sure your friend is only sitting on chairs with plastic covered seats and is prepared to remove any stains caused by not using the diaper. Use How To Permanently Remove Urine Odors and Stains to find these steps.
  3. 3 Find some alternatives for your friend to use, such as cloth diapers, if for some reason they are wearing disposables. While disposable diapers are the most convenient (thinner, easier to change, no need to bring home dirty laundry), they are an option in the privacy of the home. Cloth diapers absorb urine differently so the skin can breathe differently, but it can also feel more humid and absorb more, especially when sitting and lying on the side that is less likely to leak, which makes more sense of safety. (Cloth diapers tend to be more troublesome to handle, and since the plastic pants are in direct contact with the urine, they must either be reused after being dried with paper towels or after being replaced with a new pair.
  4. 4 Help your friend keep a supply of diapers and change supplies when they come over to visit you. Diapers, ointments, wet wipes, and plastic pants take up a lot of space, especially for longer stays, as a typical day requires between three and five diaper changes. If your friend visits a lot, it can be helpful to have a supply of diapers with you so they don't have to carry a large diaper bag every time they visit you. Diaper leakage is a psychological stress that will cause your friend to wear more diapers than needed in the diaper bag. By having a supply somewhere in your house where only the two of you have access, both of you know that you can stay longer and that you can have unplanned events without your friend suddenly having to leave because of a diaper change and you are traveling Having to stay in a soaked diaper at home can risk a leak because clean diapers were not available when they were most needed.

Part four of four:

  1. 1 Plan all overnight stays with the friend who will have to wear the diaper.
    • If there are multiple people present, talk to your friend about his / her preferences for diapering all the time or only during the night and if you want the invited guests to know about their problem. Prepare a list of attendees and let your friend know who responded and to make sure they know who's coming. comes.
  2. 2 Make sure they can accept the fact that changing diapers while lying down can expose them to the fact that more people wear diapers than just their friend who knows more about them.
    • When lying down, the diapers are put on differently than when getting up. Going to sleep and turning over while sleeping requires a tighter fit around the legs. When the wearer opens with one, the diaper forms a natural cup to hold urine against the body, while giving the legs much-needed space to move freely. If you change into a night diaper while you sleep, you can pull the diaper much tighter because your thigh muscles are not flexed. This brings up the situation where your friend wants to borrow the bed and have the room to himself while he transforms into his night diaper. You may want to discuss this issue with them before bed to talk about it privately and to let your friend know whether or not he / she can use your bed to change your diaper during sleepover.
  3. 3 Consider alternative alarm times for your diaper-wearing friend. You can go to the bathroom while your bladder is full, but your friend may feel different about wearing her diaper and feeling the need to "go". (Due to peer pressure, they may choose not to go out and take it on the diaper faster.) Some embarrassing moments can be created when their diaper shows the leak on both their bed and surroundings as well as the stench of their urine in their diaper and the Need for her to get her diaper out of bed and show the diaper's potential.
  4. 4 Think about what you can do to ensure that you can sleep at night without any problems during the night. Comfort your friend and talk about bigger diapers, plastic or rubber pants. Another option is to get disposable mats or plastic / rubber sheets to protect the bed next time. Removal of the stain can be done by looking at how you remove urine odors and stains.
  5. 5 Consider some alternatives to the post-night breakfast ritual. A lot of fluids are consumed during breakfast and the attraction of standing up also creates an increased urge to urinate. This leads to more urine during the first hour after bedtime. It is therefore an option to stop the night diaper during breakfast and change it afterwards in order to have a nice, clean diaper for the rest of the day. The alternative is to change as soon as you wake up and shower, but then the diaper is more likely to get wet but not soaked during breakfast, starting the day with it and leaving the house with a wet diaper. Many people with fecal incontinence will also have a polluting accident within the first hour of getting up and keeping them in their night diapers until the "big" accident occurs might be a good idea
  6. 6 Decide whether a shower after the night is a good thing for your diaper-wearing friend. Personal hygiene is important, especially if your friend slept for several hours and ate breakfast with a wet diaper on. Lead to your friend spending more time in the shower. It feels good to get clean in the morning and start the day with a dry diaper, not just a physical cleanse, but a spiritual one that smells fresh and good for the day ahead. This extra time needs to be taken into account when planning for the next morning and it is not time to talk about saving energy bills and the environment.